thoughts… view… opinion…ok I guess rant about this ‘all or nothing’ mentality I seem to be witnessing all around me. It seems that these days you are either a ‘crafty’ mom or ‘pinteresty’ or ‘old-fashioned’ or ‘hippie’ or ‘relaxed’ or ‘strict’ or ‘simple’ or ‘helicoptery’…or…get my point.?…I’ve even been buying into it. I have heard myself saying, “Oh, I wouldn’t do that because it’s just so….” and I’m calling B.S. What’s with the boxes and the labels?! Truth be told there is no label or box that fits me perfectly and I don’t think there needs to be.
I am ANY of these on a given day depending on my mood, sleep, interests, requests from my kids…and more. I am ‘tired’ and ‘energized’, I am ‘lazy’ and ‘productive’, I am any variation of mood that life swings at me that day. Wait…I meant my mood swings vary with what life is handing me that day. Hmmm… still not quite right, but you get the point! There are situations that require different levels of parental attentiveness. There are days I have more to give. Days I am spent. I am NOT one type of person, or temperament, or style of mom.
I have made a fruit tray look like a rainbow complete with marshmallow clouds. I have also handed my kids an unpeeled carrot straight out of the fridge, biting the end off spitting it to the dog while herding them outside in one fluid motion. I pin on pinterest and I journal in a notebook. I tweet and text and send handwritten postcards and thank you notes.
I have had my hair highlighted and toes manicured…I have also not showered for (gasp) three days. I send my kids out to use the yard as a playground complete with leaf piles and mud pies. I take them to the park to play with the rainbow-colored plastic toys. We build forts in the woods, on the beach and we go to LegoLand on vacation.
We paint rocks and canvases. We use our imaginations and pre-designed crafts from places like Kiwi crate and the craft store. My kids love to paint those plaster figurines for $1.00. I have impromptu play dates and I have sent evites for ‘special’ summer fun complete with a bouncy house. I have bought cupcakes and made gluten-free ones. I don’t discriminate. I will use all of the resources available to me and choose what feels right at that moment without ANY guilt.
I have been a vegetarian, pescatarian, vegan, raw foodie, meat-eater and any combination of those at any given time. I do prefer organic food but I will and do eat items that are not. I’d like to grow some food for my kids to experience a garden. I also love the farmer’s market and fruit stands. We go to u-pick farms and the grocery store. I am happy that I have so many options!
I like technology, but I like turning it off too. I read my kindle and real books, oh and a good trash magazine, you know the kinds…the ones that tell lies about movie stars and spread Hollywood scandal. Yeah, those. I also like Psychology Today. I conserve energy by leaving all lights off until the last possible moment as it gets dark but love a long hot uninterrupted shower where I actually get to shave my legs. I don’t think about the environment at that moment. I use plastic bags to pick up my Saint Bernard’s poop (I mean have you seen a 146 pound dogs messes?) but I have re-usable bags for my daughters lunches. It is a cliché but in my mind it’s all good…
I will give my kids the summers I had playing in the woods and swimming in the lake, going camping and on road trips, along with the summers my husband had spending most of his in Croatia and traveling Europe, to the summers we create together finding exciting new crafts and goop recipes on Pinterest, being with our friends, running barefoot and with bejeweled fancy sandals my daughter loves. We will be free and wild and probably have manicures somewhere in there too. We will be a combo of princess and wood sprite.
We will read lots of books, not because of a summer booklists but just because I love books and we always have a list since there are so many we love. We will watch T.V and movies, but there will be some days we don’t because no one remembers it’s even there to turn on. We have those days now. We will do science experiments and play math games. Not because I think we have to but because we LIKE to.
We will be busy and lazy and sleep in and get up early. We will stay up late and have a scheduled bedtime. It will depend. It always depends. My life doesn’t seem to have any ultimatums. I’m open to and we will try many new things along the way.
My point is there doesn’t need to be one way, one box to be in. Be fluid, move around, try new things, stick with the things you love. There is no wrong way to do life. Keep making mistakes and keep learning. It just has to be your way.