Positive Affirmations are short, to the point statements. These should be said, thought, heard or read to ourselves many times a day. They are used to build self-esteem, ease stress & anxiety and generally make life more pleasant.
We tend to spin our thoughts toward the negative often telling ourselves we aren’t good enough, or we can’t do something, won’t achieve a goal…and those negative thoughts breed more negative thoughts. That’s what creates the downward spiral getting us stuck in a rut. Also by repeating these negative thoughts over and over we are convincing our sub-conscious that they are true.
The good news is we can be in charge of our thinking by being mindful and using affirmations. The old adage “what you think is what you get”, actually rings true. Affirmations state that what you want to be true is true. (It doesn’t mean it really is yet, necessarily) But it is ‘affirming’ that it will be. Using affirmations is being active in our thinking. When a negative thought creeps in we push it away with our positive affirmation. After time our positive thoughts become what our subconscious believes to be true. You need to refuse to think negative thoughts.
Some examples of Positive Affirmation:
I feel happy. I feel healthy. My mind is focused. I am calm and peaceful. I am successful. I am right where I need to be. I am amazing. I am confident. I am attractive. I am a wonderful mommy. I really listen to my children. I am doing a great job raising my kids. My kids are happy.
These Affirmations replace our negative sub-conscious self talk with intentional conscious positive talk. We are in control of what we think. one way to get the affirmation into your day multiple times is to write it on many sticky notes and post them around the house. Another is to put one on the reminder of you phone so it alerts you to read it a couple of times a day. An easy way is to read them right when you wake up and before you go to bed at night. However you choose to fit them in, spending at least 5 minutes twice a day everyday is best.
How to Repeat Affirmations
1.Choose affirmations that are short and to the point. Make them positive!
2.Repeat them when your mind is not busy, while you are in a bus or a train, waiting in line, walking, etc., (best not to do while driving). You can write them on sticky notes and put them around the house to read from room to room. The bathroom mirror is a great place! Also repeating them in 5 minutes sessions each, a couple of times a day. The morning and before bed are great times for these sessions.
3.Be as relaxed as you can while you say them to yourself.
4. Be mindful of the words you are repeating.
5. Believe in what you are saying. More want and feelings will bring faster results. Have faith!
6. Choose positive words with no negative connotations. If you want to lose weight, don’t use words such as, “I am not fat”, or “I am losing weight.” These are negative statements, bringing into the mind mental images of what you do not want. Repeat instead, “I am getting slim”, or “I have my ideal weight”. Such words build positive images in your mind.
7. Use the present tense, not the future tense when creating your affirmations. Saying, “I will be less stressed”, means that you intend that to happen some day in the future. To be more effective say and feel, “I am less stressed right now”. The subconscious mind will work at overtime to make this happen now, in the present.
8. Stating what you want to be true in your life, by mentally and emotionally seeing and feeling it as true, despite your current conditions, will attract it into your life.
Positive Affirmations will become second nature. They do take intent and mindfulness in our thinking. But it is nice to know that we can choose not to believe those negative thoughts and we can replace them with positive ones of our design!!